After dealing with his wife’s declining condition over time, Owen Darnell wrote a poignant poem about their experience:
‘Do Not Ask Me to Remember’ by Owen Darnell
Do not ask me to remember,
Don’t try to make me understand,
Let me rest and know you’re with me,
Kiss my cheek and hold my hand.
I’m confused beyond your concept,
I am sad and sick and lost.
All I know is that I need you
To be with me at all cost.
Do not lose your patience with me,
Do not scold or curse or cry.
I can’t help the way I’m acting,
Can’t be different though I try.
Just remember that I need you,
That the best of me is gone,
Please don’t fail to stand beside me,
Love me ’til my life is done.
‘A Caregiver’s Response’ by the late Albert Reinsch Sr
In response to ‘Do Not Ask Me to Remember’ by Owen Darnell
I shall do my best beloved,
To do all you’ve asked of me.
When I fail you must forgive me,
For where you are I cannot see.
What I know is that I love you,
More than the world can ever know.
Yet, so often I fail to show it,
I’m so ashamed that this be so.
Please forgive me for my failings,
It is not for lack of trying.
I know you need me to be strong,
But it’s so hard when I am crying.
I, too, need you so much my darling,
Until we’re renewed in heaven above.
Your smiles reward and give me courage,
Our hugs and kisses seal our love.